We decided to keep our home open after the adoptions, and took in our 2 month old FS. We have had him for about 3 weeks now, and he is great. He fits right in our family, our kids adore him, and we adore him. So much so that I find myself dreaming of adopting him too, though we won't even discuss it out loud at this point. He was supposed to be foster only, but...now I don't know what our decision would be if they asked us.
The trouble we are having is with the people we KNOW. I was expecting everyone to be happy for us, and continue to support us. Almost everyone has said "You aren't adopting him, are you?" or "Don't you have enough kids" and I even had one call me a "child hoarder" and another one say I was "Crazy for wanting more." I have been told we don't have enough room (we have an empty bedroom we don't even use!!) and that we are taking time away from our children (definitely not true, but they also think I shouldn't put them in sports they love because it's "too much time"). I thought I was being overly sensitive, but then someone asked "Are you adopting him" and I realized the difference in the questions were the tone and the way they were phrasing it.
It's not like I am not handling it, or they are seeing something I am not. Yes, I am very busy, but I CHOOSE to be that way. I WANT to do my job and all of our activities. All they see is 6 kids, and they wouldn't do it so of course I can't possibly be able to do it.
I am so tired of crying on the way home. How do those of you, with big families, handle these conversations? I can't tell them where to shove it because this IS my extended family and coworkers. I am so tired of being hurt by this, and crying the whole way home. I just want to be happy with my family, is that so wrong?
Source: http://forums.adoption.com/foster-parent-support/410438-so-frustrated-friends-family-long-vent.html
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